Being a transman has taught me a thing or two about female anatomy. One of the most interesting factoids I’ve learned over the past year from being on steady doses of testosterone is that women have cocks.
As my body has grown to match my gender, a certain small piece of me has literally grown. On testosterone, the clitoris can grow up to three inches. Three inches! I have not been so lucky, but it has quadrupled in size and with the growth I’ve learned two things.
Part of the reason guys are so horny is because their clothes are constantly stroking them.
The clit functions just like a cock.
When I get horny, I get hard. The hornier I am, the harder I get. And as I get hard, I get bigger. I can feel the hardness in my hand and against my pants.
So what does this have to do with women? You might not be able to feel yourself get hard or have the sensation of your clit pressing up against the confines of your panties, but you can play some games that are based in reality.
Having a cock is a powerful concept in our culture. When you can feel your cock, you walk differently, you look at sex differently, and you project a different kind of confidence. Pussy confidence is great too, but why not have both?
If you can’t conceptualize your clit as a cock, don’t despair. There are a few tricks to help your brain along.
Pick up a soft packer from a sex shop and a pair of men’s briefs. No one but you knows what’s happening in your pants until you take them off, but feeling the bulge will let you know your cock is there.
Stand to pee. There are lots of devices, known as STPs, to help you in this endeavor. Cup it to your vulva, let it stick out through the fly of your jeans, turn on the faucet to help your bladder along and let it go. When you get to be a pro, try writing your name in the snow.
Stroke it. Reach into your pants and stroke your soft packer for a while then switch it out with a hard, realistic looking, strap-on, grab some lube and jerk it faster. Associating the cock with your arousal will help you feel it in your clit even when you don’t have the extra bits on.
Have your partner suck it. There’s an entire art to getting a female off by sucking her strap-on. Just keep trying until you both figure it out. Discover is part of the fun. You might be surprised to find that even though you can’t feel their mouth on the silicone, the act is so mentally stimulating it doesn’t matter.
Fuck your partner. One of the male erogenous zones is actually up his ass, so show him the literature and convince him it’s to help him reach new heights of pleasure and even a reluctant guy might agree. Of course, if you’re dating a female, you probably don’t need to be quite as persuasive.
The more time you spend trying on gender roles, the more you might start to see the lines of your sexual preference start to blur as well. Regardless, finding the cock in your clit can change the tone of your sex life. So, the next time you’re in the mood, try telling your partner you have a raging hard-on for them and experience the shift in energy.
Kole
www.developingkole.com
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