BDSM can be dangerous, painful and emotionally challenging. An extreme BDSM scene might involve being kept in a hole for days on end and forced to drink your own urine. I assure you that there are people out there who love this type of play, including the ones in the hole, but extreme kink doesn’t have to be painful. It can be down right sensual.
Take fire for example. There are plenty of pyromaniacs out there who will tell you that fire is safer to play with than it appears. There are people who eat fire. I’ve seen whips lit on fire for flogging scenes. It’s dangerous, but if you know what you’re doing, the danger is also manageable. Fire can hurt. It’s more than capable of burning you, but it doesn’t have to. If you light a baton on fire and move the baton over a person’s skin a blue glow will ignite on their body. Instead of letting it burn, follow behind the flame with your hand, caressing their skin and also immediately extinguishing the flame. The result is localized high intensity warmth. It softens and relaxes the muscles. It’s beautiful, it’s scary and it’s sensual. Yes, you can light portions of the genitals on fire too! But don’t do any of it without taking a class first.
Suspension is another kind of kinky play that can become extremely sensual. The rope tying doesn’t need to be overly physically restrictive and there’s room for a lot of sensual touching along the way. The real fun begins after the person’s been hoisted. There is some discomfort that goes with dangling in the air, but the possibilities in this position are worth it. Every action by your partner is met with a lack of resistance from your body. If they move into you, your body moves back with them. If they turn you to the left, you keep turning until they stop your motion. You’re weightless in their arms and I have seen an entire suspension scene that didn’t involve anything more than the top holding the bottom against his chest and swaying with her.
Power play often revolves around objectification, service, humiliation and punishment. Age play is now also a growing trend in the category of power play. This isn’t pedophilia. Age play is when an adult person plays the role of a child, teenager or even a baby. An age player might actually pretend they are 8 in a scene or they might skip the age regression and just forfeit their power to create an adult/child dynamic with their partner. The sensuality comes from the adult’s inherent role in caring for the child. A more typical type of power play might involve cumming on someone’s face while calling them derogatory names, but the expression of power in age play comes from the top caring for and protecting the bottom. Both situations can be hot and there’s no reason you can’t cum on your “little girl’s” face, but in this situation you might also follow the cum session with a bath.
Almost all kink can be sensual. Likewise, the sensual play mentioned above can take sadistic turns. It’s all a matter of degree and approach. Playing with extreme sensations or concepts can heighten the attention for both parties. Fire play is no casual massage. Suspension is not be lifted and carried across the threshold. Age play requires more vulnerability than being bound to the bed. But they all offer unique experiences in sensuality.