To begin with, the best thing learnt about blowjobs is that it’s not all about what you do – it’s the attitude you do it with. The more enthusiastic you are, the more he’ll be enjoying it. From experience (and I’m sure many of you will agree), a smile on your face and a little bit of a laugh is perfect for making both you and him more comfortable and relaxed.
Of course there’s more than one way of getting into a blowjob for your man, however, a favored way to start is by being as much of a tease as possible. It’s all about the chase, right?
Teasing:
Oral sex can be an exploration about becoming comfortable with him. The most fun had is by drawing it out as much as possible. Now ‘drawing it out’, doesn’t mean half a hour of your softest kisses – but at least a good five minutes pleasuring him through kissing, licking, stroking, but not quite sucking, yet. Be playful by nibbling, kissing and softly biting his skin – vary between this and lightly licking him up and down his shaft. Don’t feel like you have to go in quickly, mix it up a bit, almost like you’re giving him a preview of what’s to come. He won’t know what to expect and that will build the intensity and excitement. Engrossing yourself in him can be lots of fun – just really get involved, get close to him and stay there.
Get his penis nice and wet with your kisses and begin massaging him with your hands or even in between your breasts, either way getting him as wet as you can. If you try using your breasts he’ll love that its not your hands and the sensations will make him feel really close to you. After plenty of teasing, take him into your mouth going as deep as you can go. Slowly begin to lick and suck your way up and down his shaft. When you’re ready (always remember everything you do is your choice and not his), try to experiment similarly whilst moving your hands around his balls and shaft, keeping your movements’ smooth and wet at all times.
Straight In:
Not all blowjobs have to be long and drawn out, sometimes all you need to do is tear his trousers off and go straight for it. If teasing isn’t for you then this might be: some believe that the best blowjobs are unexpected blowjobs, and taking charge of a guy in this situation is no mission. The feeling of domination can give you a bit of an ego boost, especially when he’s moaning in pleasure because he didn’t expect you to do something. Moaning because of the psychological element that’s added. Know that if he’s moaning, then whatever you’re doing is good and you should repeat it as often as you like. If your guy isn’t very vocal, encourage him to give you more feedback. So forget about your hands at first and concentrate on getting everything immediately wet. This is when deep-throating comes in handy. And if it’s something new for you then I have a few handy techniques to soften the blow…
Deepthroating:
Learning to deepthroat isn’t a necessity, but it’s like swimming the medley, it’s not for everyone, but the ones that do have it all. On occasion, it gives men all around sensation, and it may even become central to your routine if it satisfies you both.
Relax your mouth completely making sure you are in a position where your throat can be as open as possible. You want to start slowly, keeping your tongue down until you are comfortable with your new surroundings. Engulf him slowly, being careful to not catch him with your teeth and take it to the furthest, most comfortable point. Stay here for a few seconds to get used to the feeling, and then, little by little, take more of him in remembering to stop and get used to how this feels every now and then – this will make deep-throating at a faster pace much easier when you are more confident.
Don’t forget to breath … and don’t rush. The experience is meant to be a slow, luxurious thing for both of you, and there’s not a right or wrong way of doing anything … especially in a loving relationship where you can laugh it off and get right back to it with no pressure.
Getting past the gag reflex is simply getting in some practice.
Remember…
1. Slowly taking in as much of him as you can – going a little further each time so he really feels the difference of how deep you can go.
2. Suck and hold onto him with the pressure of your lips before quickly pulling off – and repeat. This will involve coming off him completely before going back to him and changing the speed of this will make him feel good.
3. Movement of the tongue is more limited the deeper you go. Don’t be worried if you can’t move much with your tongue but enjoy the movement you can make on the areas of his shaft you can reach. This will vary depending on how versatile your tongue is, so light flicks and massaging him slowly will feel amazing – keeping eye contact if you can (we love watching you cry tears of joy for us).
4. Temperature changes by either softly blowing cool air or breathing on him. This can be something to do before you start deep-throating, just around his shaft. However, another way of exciting him is to go deeper as you keep your mouth as open as possible breathing heavily as you move. It works as the same vibrations would – so talking or humming would also work. The different shapes and noises you make with your mouth give various, awesome, feelings to your guy.
5. Change in movement: whilst deep-throating clamp your lips around him at his base and suck slowly as you retreat up towards his tip.
6. Let him know you’re enjoying it by looking up and smiling as you release the tight suction you have applied with a light ‘popping’ sound.
7. Don’t be afraid to mix up going deep with paying attention to his tip and other areas. As much as he may like you going deep, make a big deal about coming completely off him before you go down again. You can do this by opening your mouth wide on the way down and then sucking tightly with your lips pressed against him and suck your lips all the way back up to the top. It draws out the pleasure for him and gives you time to think about your next move.
8. Gulping while you’re very deep: throat vibrations do a lot of good and it will affect all of him because he is so far inside of you.
Other techniques
Hands:
Bringing in your hands to add something different to the mix works with what your lips and tongue are doing – your hands should have something to keep busy. These are three enjoyable tried and tested positions for a blowjob with hands:
1. Not using hands at all from a kneeling position (we just like to say, “Look, no hands!”)
2. Wrapping your hands around the base of his shaft – best when he’s lying down or sitting back in a chair where you can position him towards you. Good for deep-throating.
3. With one hand around his balls, slightly pull them closer to you and your other hand while holding onto the shaft simultaneously. This can help if he’s finding it difficult to come, and can be done in many positions.
You’re hands are a great for supporting and continuing pleasure when your mouth is taking a two second break and can add the perfect amount of intensity/pressure to a blowjob.
Lightly, massage his balls with your fingertips or cup them in your hands and he’ll feel safe, enveloped, and adored by you. The feeling of when your man holds you, making you feel completely and utterly safe – well this is the same, but for men and more fun. Place your hands at the bottom of his shaft and gently massage in a circular motion.
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