So you’ve made a list, checked it twice and have played in bed naughty and nice. What next? Hopefully you’ve gathered some courage and confidence with your partner, otherwise this next step might be a little tough to digest……sensory deprivation!
Sensory wha? You might say and I will respond: take your partners sense of sight or touch away. Maybe even taste and smell, though I’d say for the most part those might be irrelevant for our purposes. But on a side note, deprivation of smell during sex might actually be detrimental to the advancement of your sexual life since the scent of the sweat your partner releases during sex is not only different from sweat when they work out, but is actually filled with pheromones whose sole purpose is to make you want to fuck your partner even more. Now who would want to block the scent of that sweat?!
First deprivation: Sight. Blindfold your partner, put a pillow on top of them (not in the smother them to death kind of way), get creative in taking away their power to watch your moves. Then have some fun! Tickle them with a feather pearls, beads, drip cold water on them, whatever you want. It can be extremely sexy to watch your partners body writhe as they react suddenly to whatever you touch them with. The lack of sight means they can’t predict your moves or stop your moves until after they have already happened. It gives you almost total power which is fun even if you’re not a dominatrix.
Furthermore, it forces you to get creative with what you consider sexy.
Second deprivation: Touch. Tie your partner up, chain them to the bed, use a scarf to tie hands, legs, arms, and whatever body part you want together. Then have your fun! Tickle them, lick them, bite them, anything that comes to mind is fair game, especially if it’s sexy, tantalizing, and creative. This can be a submissive/master role play scenario if wanted, but since I’m suggesting as a second step I’m thinking of using it more as a way to get more comfortable with each other. Without the ability to stop your partner from doing something to you, you’re putting complete control and power in their hands. While this can be scary, you’ll feel exhilarated once you escape and the rush of adrenaline only does good things for the sex that follows.
Overall, sensory deprivation is a great addition to the bedroom, whether taking away once sense or all of them. It forces each partner to increase trust in each other and be willing to let go of control. While that terrifies some people, slowly introducing sensory deprivation can strengthen the relationship inside and outside of the bedroom.
Geneva Smith
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