Sex is noisy. Too often do we find ourselves coordinating booty calls contingent on roommates’ inconvenient schedules, or noting after a particularly good poke that a complaint from the neighbors is likely. Panting, moaning, screaming, smacking, the bed is creaking. Then when you finally climax the boisterous wails that ensue can be lawless.
Preferences about the other kind of oral accompaniment vary. While some partners find gratification in vocal expression, some admit to being turned off by unnecessary racket. Ultimately the rule is if you’ve gotta fake it, save it. Moaning for the sake of breaking the silence is categorically irritating. Repetitive vocal outbursts without any physical foundation can be more damaging than advantageous. And dirty talk that is overwrought or out of character is just plain peculiar.
Much work in the way of psychology and human sexuality studies has been done as sexperts try to figure out any patterns regarding the sounds of sex. Some polls (that are established according to a gender binary, and are thus, inherently faulted) suggest that women are infamous for incorporating more vocal accompaniment during their partner’s climax than during their own. While this theory is not seamless, the implications are clear; vocalization of pleasure during sex is not a physical reaction so much as a means of emotional manipulation. By highlighting their partners’ prowess with flattering sighs and moans, the noisemaker in bed may be bringing their partner to climax.
But vocal noises aren’t the only sounds making an appearance in the bedroom. All kinds of audible emergences can completely change the mood. Most of us have experienced the embarrassing squirting noise that can slip out during an especially soaked pussy pounding. Slapping, squeaking and myriad indefinable and unflattering auditory contributions can immediately shift your atmosphere. Even some vibrators, while at times offering long awaited alterations in the bedroom, can be grating on one’s nerves. No one wants to get down with a TV blaring in the background. But adding some tunes into the mix (as long as they aren’t overpowering) can help to offset any off-putting buzzing or bodily noises.
Sex is the most natural occasion during which we are able to exhibit complete abandon. For this reason, sincere spontaneity without too much thought of how coarse and discomfiting it can be, makes for the most successful experiences. As with anything, honesty is the best policy. If you lose yourself and its real, your partner won’t mind placing a firm hand over your loud mouth. In fact, a remarkably loud romp could be the perfect excuse to introduce a ball gag to your bedfellow.
R. Darling
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