Whether by choice, accident, curiosity, or just plain old opportunity, most people have flirted, dated, “cybered” (like phone sex through text), roleplayed, or some other sexual activity online. For some it is the thrill of knowing some girl 2,000 miles away is getting off on something you’re doing, for others, the medium of the internet is the best way to overcome a chronic anxiety disorder, a way to “Test the waters”, and yet for others, the pressures of engaging in some “deviant” sexual behavior drives them online to seek companionship without having to first reveal their identities to possible fallout at work or home.
Dear reader, we will be looking at the much stranger, much kinkier, places to actually have some kind of online sexual experience, be that video, camera, voice chat, or other kinds of roleplay. Because let’s all admit it, sometimes we hit a point masturbating that even the new toys we got ourselves won’t quite get the job done. Some extra mental stimulation might be necessary….
As always, if you engage in any kind of online play, beware stalkers, giving out personal info, and guard your identity. Most of these sites and programs have a block feature for a reason.
Craigslist rounds out the bottom of this list for two reasons. One is the safety factor, there isn’t much of one. Even the dummy emails are a poor screen, and things like the Craigslist Killer, though sensationalized, are still legitimate concerns. Second, Craigslist is still primarily a “in-person” medium when it comes to, shall we say, “Adult needs”. But it is still a solid choice for the Number 10 slot. Although the adult services section is gone for now, there is still plenty of hooking up going on in many sections, just look around the personals section.
Like Craigslist, AFF is oriented towards hooking people up in real time, but certainly the possibility for getting to know someone better beforehand exists. It’s not uncommon for prospective partners to probe sexual interests, and maybe have a little fun underneath the desk while doing so, if you catch the drift. It beats out Craigslist for the fact that it is oriented towards a sexual purpose. However, it does lose to Craigslist for the fact that if you want a good shot of getting somebody, you have to join the subscriber service, and post a picture, possibly compromising your identity. As an honorable mention, “Plentyoffish.com”, “Onlinebootycall.com”, and other such sites can consider themselves “sharing” this spot, they are all comparatively the same.
8: MSN messenger/Window’s Live
MSN is generally the preferred medium for people who wish to have a nice, quiet, sexy chat with someone who’s there for the same. It is much cleaner, shinier, more customizable, and hardware-friendly for mics and webcams than its counterparts Yahoo and AOL. However, the reason it has fallen so far on the list is its lack of an in-depth search feature and rather mechanical buddy list. It is often better to meet people other places on the net, say 4chan forums, or some other community, and then exchange messenger information.
7. World of Warcraft
Most people recognize it as the benchmark of online gaming, a strange mix of pop humor, dungeons and dragons, and the team-play of Halo or Counterstrike. To parents, it’s probably best understood as “that damn dragon game” your teenagers play for hours at a time.
Though true that WoW’s primary demographic is the rabid-mouthed, beer drinking frat boy 16-34 male, there is a different community. One of classic nerds who immerse themselves in the story; roleplayers. They even have their own realm type to play out those fantasies, and unlike the regular servers, women roleplayers tend to match, if not outnumber the male roleplayers. Buried even further still, though, are the “ERPers”, or, Erotic Roleplayers, the more quality players who cluster into tight knit communities, the most popular of which is known as Darknest, and onto certain servers (the most popular of these being Moon Guard in the U.S.). For each faction, Horde and Alliance, there are “hubs” where these people hang out. Don’t worry, you’ll recognize them as the female avatars with revealing outfits.
While it’s generally not advised to use your 15 dollar a month subscription to search for some sex with an elf, if you’re already there, it can provide at least an interesting detour if one night your guild is offline and you find yourself getting “the itch”. The added bonus of double privacy (both your account, and your avatar) makes this a very safe way to get your online jollies off with next to zero chance of being freaked out by a stalker type, if you don’t mind some weird body shapes.
For the fetish enthusiasts, Collarme.com provides what is essentially a facebook of all things BDSM. It is probably this niche market that ranks it so low on this list, otherwise, it would definitely be higher. There is no penalizing your account for being free (like on AFF), the search feature is INCREDIBLY extensive and allows you to filter between online, real time, friendship, and other relationship options. You can search by state, country, within X number of miles of your zip code, and whether you want men, women, or transgendereds of a certain age range. While most of the community there is very hardcore, the site itself is as near to perfect an online, and in-person dating mechanism you will ever find. It is quite user-friendly, with a few games should you need to distract yourself.
As mentioned it is not for the faint of heart, but if this is your thing, or you’re curious? It’s definitely worth checking out. Though there -are- better fetish sites, CM is definitely the most “vanilla friendly.”
5. Yahoo Messenger
Like MSN Yahoo is a very hardware friendly chat system. Out of the big three, it is the best balance between maintaining its community, and customization for your personal enjoyment. Many people on most of the aforementioned programs have Yahoo IDs, and you can exchange them to chat with them here in a more private feeling environment.
Yahoo also has a good group system, where you can join and meet other people with your interests, and a fairly comprehensive matchmaking system. Even without the naughty play, it’s a good program to use in everyday life.
Chatroulette is a basic random video chat website that pairs you with random video chatters from around the world. A high percentage of people on this site are there for sexual reasons. If you’ve been there for any length of time, you will no doubt run into nudity, especially male nudity. Chatroulette’s mostly a place for gay males, or male exhibitionists, so if that’s your thing, definitely check out chatroulette.com.
Skype is almost the evolved child of AOL. It’s a chat room program, and EVERYONE is there to be sexy (or think they are). Sure, some of us like to pretend it’s for professional uses, but the preponderance of people there are to get digitally horizontal. The mic and webcam can be a bit of a hassle to set up, but once you do it’s fairly reliable.
However, before you run off and download it, a word of warning. While the thought of a lot of people constantly on camera for you to view might be appealing at first, remember, it means everyone. So the next time you’re in the grocery store, look at everyone you pass and picture if you wouldn’t mind them being little boxes in your chat room.
Barring that, Skype is fairly useful. It is a bit of a problem if you don’t want to be on camera, or don’t want to use your mic, due to self esteem issues, security, or some kind of gender identity disorder, and other users may even make you feel unwanted if thats the case. For this reason it doesn’t quite beat out the top two, but if “the real thing” is what you want, you can call this #1. But honestly, if you wanted the real thing, you’d be getting that instead, wouldn’t you?
2. Second Life.
Second Life has some detractors, so let’s get those out of the way first. It’s complicated. Very, complicated. If you don’t have friends to show you the ropes, it can be downright terrifying on your first log in. The controls are a bit clutzy, and customizing your avatar to look “just right” can take hours. Oh, and the currency exchange, if you plan on buying items, can be difficult if you don’t quite grasp exchange rates. Fortunately there are many ways to earn “Linden Dollars” (LDs) within the world either by “camping” (using a device to make a place feel more lively and getting paid small amounts for it) or finding employment in a dance club, escort service, or some other thing. Like AOL and Skype, the majority of people on Second Life are there to be kinky. You can be a man, woman, or a unicorn, there are customizable outfits for nearly everything. As such you will probably run into a few kinks. It can take hours to browse through shops to find the right look, but when you do, it is immensely rewarding to have others admire your crafting skill.
Second Life has property, expensive property, and because of this sometimes you may trespass on someone’s private club. It happens, but it can make the game feel uninviting. It’s difficult to network from scratch, and difficult to just learn Second Life without any reward, it could take up to a month to be relatively mastered in it, depending on your computer literacy. For this reason, it takes number 2, but if wish fulfillment is your design, consider this #1.
IMVU is similar to Second Life, except it is purely a “3d Chat Experience”, next to none of the gaming elements exist here. It is much more “cartoony” than Second Life, and your avatar is limited to sitting in predesignated poses.
So why is this ranked higher?
Simple: User friendly. Second Life is better if you fully master the technical aspects, but many people don’t have that kind of left-brained thinking and want to use a program thats more casual, where it takes less time to find a partner than the actual “sex”. In this regard IMVU surpasses most of the other programs. If you enjoy avatar customization, you can spend hours mixing and matching pieces from the store, getting, like in Second Life, almost any look you want, from innocent blonde to demonic succubus to walking talking Pikachu.
But if that isn’t for you, you can just mix and match the default outfits, regardless of which one you pick, your avatar still gets all six basic starter outfits.
The chat rooms are easy to navigate. Even without buying one of the Adult Passes or VIP subscriptions, there are hundreds of rooms each tagged with special keywords. Many of them are even escort services who specialize in giving people pleasurable company, from furry cat girls to shemale Dominatrixes, to Japanese schoolgirls your typical digital prostitute, it’s out there on IMVU.
For better or worse, having fewer graphics options than Second Life, IMVU is predominately a roleplaying/cybering community. But it is for this reason that it steals the #1 spot as the best place on the internet to cyber.
So what are you waiting for? Get over here woman Start experimenting!